Just my .02 and Im sure there will be a bunch of people who disagree, but id get her a hamerless revolver that fits her hand. My reasoning behind this is this, in a SHTF situation a safety is your worse enemy, and there are too many factors that will cause an auto to jam, if you really want to see something humorous go watch a bunch of cops who "train" with their firearms qualify. A revolver goes bang everytime you pull the trigger, and when its empty you don't have to worry about being shot with your own gun, plus there are no fine motor skills involved with using it in a bad situation, and anyone whos ever been in one will tell you, if you don't train with it, it wont work.
Now the extreme, she pulls it, gets one poorly placed round off, it jams, she drops it and starts to run, and a highly motivated individual picks it up........ food for thought. I wanted my GF to be safe, she went against my advice, bought a glock 26. She carries my S&W 38 pocket gun now. And I didn't say a word.. Just need to buy another one now.

Just my .02
I agree...I say go with double action revolver...no fumbling just squeeze the trigger...auto can become second nature if one shoot the gun often enough...