either get help or get your kids and yourself out of the situation...
When I wrote this it was a generalization...not meaning you but whomever is in a situation as this...
I tend to be more of a root cause fix kind of person...I develop my opinions and theories based on what I have lived, seen or learned from readings and whatnots...my favorite subjects are dogs and hunting, psychology and natural cures/medicines...so I have plenty to say about this subject...
IMO, sometimes a woman is attracted to a man for different reasons and one is because in her subconscious mind she is comfortable with him and vice versa for the man...so after a while the tendencies come out good and bad...sometimes they are beyond tolerable...
raising kids can be very stressful for many reasons...especially in blended families where there are step children and parents involved...our system is set to put a lot of emphasis on learning math and other subjects but none on how to raise a family...but I reckon it creates quite a bit of big business by having a high percentage of dysfunctional families...the judicial system profits...the prosecuting/defense lawyers including divorce lawyers are making a killing to include law enforcement because of it etc...etc...not only that but lots of kids from this upbringing won't get a decent education...so this ensures we will have laborers to do our dirty work...
so it is hard enough for biological parents in raising the kids...so it is way more challenging in raising step children especially if they already come from a dysfunctional past...but there is no excuse in not treating the step children fairly and right...
the parents also can come into the relationship with their own personal issues as well...so this concoction is definitely a recipe for many challenges as well...getting the right professional help can only make things better...
S_J_Kennels is right...there is never a good enough reason to abuse a woman, and I will add kid or anyone for that matter...even if the man was beaten and humiliated as a kid by his mom or dad...it is not an excuse to be abusive because of it...lots of times a man might want to change and can try hard to do so but usually can not do it alone without the proper help whether it is long term therapy or even jail time...
I like to say that God created Grandparents to help the grandkids where we failed our children...and give helpful advice to our children as well...I will only give helpful advice to help our kids whether it is marriage or whatever...and I also try to give them pointers on how to build a better foundation for their children...my grandchildren...
I sure as heck am not perfect...but my goal is to always continue in that direction...
once a man that used to be active on this site whom was getting close to retirement wrote this on here... "
I am starting to like the man I have become"...hopefully we as men and women can say that as we age...this world would be a better place if we could learn this before getting married and/or having children...
