Abuse

i may not fit into the "most" children category, may consider myself one of the lucky ones. my dad raised me from the age of around 2, never knew my mom, last time i spoke with her (until i was around 23-24) i think i was 5 or 6. my step mom was the only "MOM" i knew, who treated me as her own and disciplined me as 1 of her own, even though it wasn't till i was 16 when she became my legal by marriage step mom, even between the yrs she was married to someone else and when he passed away and my dad and her got back together again. i grew up 3/4" plywood thickness from dirt floor poor, lived off the land, my dad working what he could find to pay the land note and utilities, and put a few stitches of clothing on my back. looking back on that, and not ever wanting to go back to that, i have taken it upon myself to better myself, even though college aint my thing, I'm using my college money (go bill) to learn a new tradecraft, so i don't have to wrench on aircraft till I'm 65, instead, be the stick wiggler and break them instead.

i grew up with tough love as my dad called, but in todays society, it would be considered child abuse and my dad would be under the jail, not just in it. yea yea, so i was put through a wall several times, woke up from an unconscious state several times, went to school, barely able to sit down bc of the whelps on my thighs and butt, but looking back, if my mouth would have stayed closed, my ears opens and my attitude, more of young child, i would have received less redirection from his foot. in fact, if i would received more of them, i might have turned out 10X better than i am now.

what people call abuse nowadays, was standard attitude adjustments many years ago. verbal abuse can and in some instances, be worse than physical abuse, but who determines the extent of what is considered abuse? in the military, drill instructors would call a recruit everything int he book, and make a few more just for good measures, and if need be, a lil "wall to wall" counseling might be in order. look at what that produced for soldiers, men who knew what discipline was, and didn't take crap off anybody and got the job done without being told more than once. nowadays soldiers are in charge of the units, not the sergant and officers, because the chain of command's hands have been tied by congress and the joes run amuck, same thing i see in the civilian sector, a bunch of hoodlums running wild, because society deems sparing the rod doesn't spoil the child, coddling and pampering makes a better and more disciplined man nowadays.

when i came to work here in the nw, so many times i got asked where i learned my respectfulness and discipline, and i would explain how i grew up and some would say that my dad should have been turned in to child services. i would respond back, "would you rather hear yes mam/sir, no mam/sir and have the task done right the first time, not having to be told more than once, or going back and redoing it over and over till it is done right", they would walk away scratching their heads and come back later and admit that for a work force, such as the field I'm in, needs more folks like me, not the kind that running around outside of the hanger. in aviation, seldom do pilots/mech get a sec chance at life if the aircraft crashes due to piss poor, shady or lazy maintenance practices and techniques. i woe all that to my dad, who at times back then, possibly went to far with his foot, but in 13yrs, not a single acft has went down or workmanship failed because of that.

now, for abusing women, no it shouldn't happen, but women should be held to the same standards as a man since they want to be treated like a man in todays society. they want equal rights, but only have to put out have the workload. where is that equal? where is it ok for to be abused by a woman, verbally or physically and have to sit back and take it because if equality is whats wanted and granted to them, then so should the backfire from their actions. a woman pushes a man's buttons and keeps pushing, but its ok, but turn the table, and the man usually ends up with a hand print across the face. where is that equality? if a woman is man enough to him a man, they are man enough to receive the same serving.

now, for husband/man to come home, or wife/woman to come home from work and start getting abused, NO, no call for it, and should NOT be tolerated, from either sex. we ALL have our bad days/moments, and yes we ALL lash out at times, but restraint is needed by both sexes to prevent abuse from either sex. but lets look at 150yrs ago, woman stayed home, did the house tending and man was the bread winner. nowadays, sometimes it takes both to keep the household going, but things were a lot simpler back then. the equal rights movement open a whole new door in inequality for the men. men do 2x the work load, and get the same as a woman who does half. where is the equality? women are more skilled in some areas of the workforce than men are, but who did those jobs before? men. was as effective? it must have, since for 1000s of years the world population grew, technology developed and or improved. all with men running the world. the men have loosened the reins and handed them over to the women, and the world in whole in the past 75-85yrs has taken a turn for the worse.

we all have our opinions, and I'm sure I'm gonna get some backlash from this, but I'm taking some of my views directly from the bible, other views, i have seen/experienced over the years and reading and watching the history of the world and civilizations.