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« on: October 12, 2013, 09:05:01 pm » |
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I'm about to turn 18 n my gf is 17 she lives with her grandparents and they treat her like a stray dog just there so wrong to her....... Can she move put n in with me with out there consint I would like some suggestions if iny plz no negative post I'm really n a bad spot so Plz no neggitive post
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dub
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« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2013, 10:30:16 pm » |
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Sorry to hear about the problems. This is the real world. I had some friends that went through things like what you say. He ended up getting shot at. When does she turn 18? Do they let her stay over with you? If so just extend the stay. Make sure she finishes school. DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT!!!!!!!! My friends ended up getting married so she could move in with him. But it was not happily ever after. Help out if you can but do not get married or have a kid until things are calm and you both decide it is time not to just fix a problem.
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Easttex91
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« Reply #3 on: October 13, 2013, 12:30:41 am » |
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Just remember it's easier to move one in than it is to move one out. I understand there's problems there probably bad ones or you wouldn't have brought it up on here but like dub said it ain't always happily ever after.
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Hunter1422
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« Reply #4 on: October 13, 2013, 08:19:24 am » |
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We live in Texas and she's not aloud to stay the night but she can come over at Times but she won't finish school if she stays there she's goin flip out n idk she's the one who asked if she can move in so it must be really bad on her
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Shotgun wg
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« Reply #5 on: October 13, 2013, 09:48:15 am » |
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We live in Texas and she's not aloud to stay the night but she can come over at Times but she won't finish school if she stays there she's goin flip out n idk she's the one who asked if she can move in so it must be really bad on her
A girl that is 17 and unhappy at home is looking for a way out. Most 17 year old girls are unhappy at home and think their parents or guardians are horrible and mistreat them so bad. I have 6 sisters and everyone of them wanted out because they were so mistreated. They weren't allowed to do what they wanted when they wanted so it was just cruel and unusual punishment. My point is unless she is physically abused the best thing u can do is just say no. When a girl wants out they latch on to whatever chance they have. A few years from now they want to be free and u get tossed aside because now they are adults and can do as they please. I have seen this play out multiple times. Shotgun Arkansas |
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heavyhitter89
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« Reply #6 on: October 13, 2013, 09:49:00 am » |
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you may want to step back and look at the future for her and you, if you and her both think she will finish school and everything with you then maybe a sit down with the grandparents would help out, If that don't work have her stay there and stick it out until she is 18 then nobody can say anything, these are sticky situations and I have seen some turn out bad, Just explain to them what is best for her and that's all you want
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« Reply #7 on: October 13, 2013, 10:58:46 am » |
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When your a teenager, every problem feels like it'll never get better and it's gonna last forever because in the context of the amount of time you've been alive, even a year is a significant portion of your life.
I'm sure you love her and all that, but at your age the best advice I can give you is get yourself a few ol girls you can call up now and again for companionship and a friendly date now and then, outside of that, don't get so attached.
Keep your dogs in the woods and your varmint in your britches.
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Reuben
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« Reply #8 on: October 13, 2013, 11:09:39 am » |
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We live in Texas and she's not aloud to stay the night but she can come over at Times but she won't finish school if she stays there she's goin flip out n idk she's the one who asked if she can move in so it must be really bad on her
A girl that is 17 and unhappy at home is looking for a way out. Most 17 year old girls are unhappy at home and think their parents or guardians are horrible and mistreat them so bad. I have 6 sisters and everyone of them wanted out because they were so mistreated. They weren't allowed to do what they wanted when they wanted so it was just cruel and unusual punishment. My point is unless she is physically abused the best thing u can do is just say no. When a girl wants out they latch on to whatever chance they have. A few years from now they want to be free and u get tossed aside because now they are adults and can do as they please. I have seen this play out multiple times. Shotgun Arkansas 10-4 on what you said Shotgun...and in 4 or 5 years she will be restless and unhappy again and she will want out...the worst part of it all is that there will be a few kids involved and affected by it... |
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« Reply #9 on: October 13, 2013, 12:35:07 pm » |
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so true Rueben im living proof of that.. 5 years two kids later and moved on to another girl, just was an unhappy situation after all was done.
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Shotgun wg
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« Reply #10 on: October 13, 2013, 01:00:20 pm » |
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My best friend went thru a similar situation that ended a few years ago. They dated from the time she was 15. All was good. At 18 she moved in. He married her put her thru college and on to a good job with good pay. Well working daily with girls that were single and her age she figured out that she had not really lived yet. She didn't know who she really was. She divorced my buddy and it tore him up. She went on a party spree and had a good time. She has since settled back Down. My buddy has remarried and now has a kid. Yes it worked out in the end but the journey was a rough one and nearly destroyed my buddy.
Don't get in a hurry. Although the urge to save the damsel in distress may be strong it's not always the best idea. Sometimes the damsel is only a leach looking for a ride and a bite to eat. I would encourage every young person to really learn who they are before trying to be a husband or a wife, father or mother. If u know who u are these jobs become easier.
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rdjustham
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« Reply #11 on: October 13, 2013, 04:28:31 pm » |
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Been there, done that. Luckily there were no kids involved. And just like others have said, all was fine and dandy right up til she turned 21.
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« Reply #12 on: October 13, 2013, 04:48:04 pm » |
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Listen we're around the same age! My advice don't let her move in!! If it's really that bad her family would step in, she's probably just mad she can't do what she wants go out when she wants and too save you the trouble and also a crap load of money cuz being 17 she probs doesn't work and will move in with you && mooch! JUST DONT LET HER MOVE IN lol too young
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SwampHunter
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« Reply #13 on: October 13, 2013, 10:26:17 pm » |
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this happend to me ......we had been together 3 years, so i wouldnt do anything like this in a relationship that hasnt been going very long
my parents wouldnt let her move in with all of us so i moved out an she moved in with my parents an i was out by my self it was what was best for her it took some convinceing to my parents but after they saw we were not just trying to move in together it it worked out good ,
we were not sure yet if we really were ready to live together so she lived with my parents like 1.5 years maybe 2 years cant remember but finally we moved in together , been almost 9 years together now
what im saying is make sure that there really is a problem at her house bedore beliving everything she says , some girls will play the smpathy card on good guys just to keep them close ,an make sure that its going to be whats best for both of yall
an dont get mad at your parents they been liveing longer than you have an 90 percent of the time they know whats best an can read through the BS
also alot of times stuff that seems bad at 17 is not near as bad as you think it is
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« Reply #14 on: October 15, 2013, 01:45:59 pm » |
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I met my wife when she was 17 I was 18 and got married 6 weeks later when she turned 18. She was not pregnant her dad had beaten her with the belt buckle end of a belt and that was not happening again. I wish I could give you good advice but I would do what I did all over again. Be careful don't get her pregnant because that will just complicate the battle you have ahead.
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